Tuesday, January 28, 2014

The power of networking

I may be writing this too soon.  I may be unemployed for much, much longer.  However, I am going to tell you a little about what I'm doing to find a job.

First, I am obviously applying for jobs.  That should go without saying.  I'm applying for everything I possibly can, because frankly, being unemployed stinks.  Anyone who thinks that I should be taking stock and doing some sort of philosophical retreat where I find myself needs to pull their head out of the hole it's stuck in.  I'm not retired.  While I've got a cushion, it isn't infinite. I'd rather have a steady income coming in, and a job.

What I'm also doing is networking.  When I was a newly minted college graduate (over 20 years ago), I wasn't sure what networking was.  And people made it sound so complicated.  One friend was talking about contacts and tiers and whatnot.

I've been in my field for about 14 years now; I've been networking the whole time.  I didn't realize it at first, but after my first layoff I saw it.  All it is is getting in touch with your contacts--friends, former coworkers, colleagues, etc. You do it if you're working. You do it if you're unemployed. And you do it for various reasons.

Through friends, coworkers, colleagues, and former workmates, I have been able to learn about places where I'm interested in working.  They've given me a candid and honest assessment of the department where I'd be working, the organization overall, and the people. They've let me know who would be good to talk to and connected me with them (you know, like a network. Weird, I know). They have let me know about job opportunities or upcoming job opportunities.  They have let me know who the best person to talk to about an open position would be.  They have forwarded my resume and gotten me in touch with people, who got me in touch with other people.

Here is what networking isn't:

It isn't your buddy getting you a job. That isn't how it works.  My friends and colleagues can put in a good word for me, but they don't say "Hey, can you do me a favor and give Pamela a job?" Maybe in some situations that happens, but don't bank on that.

It isn't going to conferences and events and handing out your business card frenetically.  I mean, yes, conferences and events can be quite helpful. And they can also be a great way to meet people and make connections. But you want to know who it is you're contacting. If it's just a name in your contacts list and you know nothing about them, then you're not doing this right.

It isn't being best buddies with everyone you contact. It's isn't about being anyone's buddy, though I'm certainly friends with a lot of people I've worked with.  The thing is, if someone I used to work with several jobs ago contacted me because they wanted to know more about a place where I was working or job opportunities, I'd do what I could for them.  It doesn't matter if we hadn't been in close touch, or in touch at all, in several years.

It isn't going to an event and complaining about your job search.

Talk to people you've worked with (either at jobs, volunteer activities, professional activities, etc.).  Talk to people you've met along the way (from conferences, seminars, school, etc.). Don't get pouty if they haven't talked to you on the regular since you worked with them, since people get busy and it's nothing personal. If you mix this up with being BFF's with someone, it will complicate things.  The fact is, the people who are currently rallying around me all have lives and spouses and kids and busy jobs and aging parents and homes and volunteer commitments. We weren't in very close touch. But when I reached out, they weren't all "OH MY GOD PAMELA YOU HAVEN'T CALLED ME IN SO LONG I WILL NEVER HELP YOU BECAUSE YOU AREN'T A FRIEND." They said "Oh, I had no idea! I'll definitely keep an eye out for you, and yes, call me if you want to ask me about any place or person I may know something about."  These include people I do consider friends, and people whom I like but who are more colleagues.

Just letting people know you're in the market for a new job (or for a job) can be helpful. Here is what my friends and colleagues have done:

  • They've passed along job opportunities.
  • They've forwarded my resume to a hiring manager.
  • They've let me know who I should send my resume and cover letter directly along to.  In a couple of cases, they talked to those people and those people contacted the hiring manager, and I got interviews.
  • They've passed my resume along to people they knew, and asked them if they'd talk to me about job opportunities outside of my field.
  • They've introduced me to people who work in my field and who have a lot of connections.  Those people have, in turn, put me in touch with other connections, have put in a good word for me at different places where I have applied, and have given me some good advice on various organizations I am applying to.  One went over my resume and gave me some great advice on how to structure it for different jobs.
  • Anyone who was a supervisor in the past has said they'd provide me with a good recomendation.
  • They've given me an idea about the lay of the land at a place where I'd be interviewing--what the office culture was like, what the people I'd be interviewing with were like, etc.
  • They have sometimes tempered my expectations, put things in perspective, or encouraged me.
  • They have caught things that I have done that would be appealing to hiring managers.  Sometimes you don't know that you've done something notable because, well, you've done it and it seems mundane to you. But a couple of people have pointed out I did a few things that would be quite appealing.
  • They've clarified things for me.  I thought I wasn't going to be a good candidate for one place, but a friend who worked there said they'd be interested in talking to me. 

Don't be afraid to network.  And don't stop doing it, even if you're employed.  Sometimes, talking to someone else you know in your field about an issue can bring some new ideas to you.  They can really help.

And don't forget to reciprocate. And by reciprocate, I mean, if anyone you know needs your help, help them to the best of your ability. Don't scorekeep. (Remember, just because someone in your field or worklife universe isn't your BFF doesn't mean you don't help them out.) If you don't think they'd be the right fit for a job, tell them--it's going to save them time and trouble (it was very helpful to me in the past). If you can give them information they need or help them if they look for a job or help them with some ideas with an issue they're having, you'll be doing them a great favor.

I have to say, I am humbled and gratified by the support I've gotten. I had this the last time I was laid off, and I can tell you that is why I will not refuse anyone help.





Saturday, January 25, 2014

In this update, I am going to bright side everything

Just call me the queen of spin.

Okay, first, the good news.

I got a house! Hooray! It's a beautiful two-bedroom ranch, has a good-sized kitchen with decent storage, it's bright and didn't need any major work done.  I had the inside painted (the former owners painted the ceilings off white and in one bedroom tan).  I had the old, scuzzy carpet replaced with beautiful strand bamboo flooring I got a good price on.  The windows were new. The roof was in good shape. The siding was good. It has a dry basement (the house lot is on an incline, so no water issues).  It's in a nice neighborhood. It's near conservation land. It's not on the ocean (the ocean is a great location in the summer, but come storm season and you start to worry).  It's 960 square feet which is the perfect size for me.  The former owners left me the washer, dryer, lawn mower, leaf blower, hedge trimmer, and yard implements.  As well as some firewood (yes, there is a fireplace). It has gas heat. It is perfect!

Now, here's some more good news to repeat to yourself when you finish reading this post.
  • I am available for lunch pretty much anytime now.
  • I am providing business to various local businesses.
  • I am getting to know my neighbors thanks to unusual circumstances.
  • I have had the time to do things like unpack, replace some of the electrical switchplates, and take care of other small, niggling things I need to do around the house. 
I'm sure you can guess where some of this is going. But you may not see the second part. Hold on to your hats.

I passed papers in November, on Thanksgiving week. In mid-December, I was laid off.  Well, awesome.

Granted, as the time drew near, I had some clear indications and started making preparations. It wasn't that much of a shock to me.  I was calm when it happened, because I knew my finances were in order, I had a cushion, and I had some resumes out. I'd be okay. It would be a pain, but that is life.  Life is risk, I moved and bought close to a job I planned on sticking with, and well, the odds didn't work out that way.

My former supervisor has been a great help--she wrote me a wonderful letter of recommendation, is providing a reference, and passes along job leads.  We are still in touch. The only reason why I was laid off was money--no one wanted to do it.  They needed me but my job wasn't "essential," and the organization was in a situation where this difference mattered.  So I have nothing but good things to say about my former boss, my former director, and my former coworkers. I also have nothing but good things to say about the organization, which is a great place with a worthy mission and good people.  My old coworkers and colleagues have been very helpful in my job search. My family has been there for me. One thing this situation has shown me is that I am fortunate to have such wonderful and supportive friends and family.

I was already busy with my job search--anyone who thinks being unemployed means it's all leisure time is sorely mistaken. It's a full-time job, looking for a job.

And then, one night (I wasn't in the house, thankfully), my neighbor's son had what sounds like a mini-seizure and crashed into the front of my house.  He hit the front wall of the master bedroom. There isn't a hole in the house, but the wall and the supports need to be replaced.

I am now sleeping in the second bedroom--my furniture is there.  He is okay, thankfully. Insurance is covering this. I am glad no one was hurt. He and his family feel awful about this.  But it was an accident. A terrible accident. The important thing is, no one got hurt. It's a pain (and I'll admit, I freaked out when I came back and saw what happened) but it's not the end of the world.  On the upside, I met two of my neighbors from this. One saw the damage and left me a note and her number.  She came by to check on me later that day.  The father of the guy who did it apologized; I told him I have no hard feelings or ill will towards him or his son--and his son did report it to the police and he did file a claim with his insurance company. I rear ended someone once; I had been careless. She was gracious and kind, and I have to tell you, I never forgot that. So I won't get nasty especially when someone does the right thing and takes responsibility. (The father was also nice enough to clear my driveway during the last snowstorm; I'm going to have to bring something like this to him and to the other neighbor who helped in the aftermath.  Or maybe some nice chocolates for my other neighbor).

And you know what? Even if it wasn't a straight up accident--even if he had been careless or drunk or texting or just horsing around--then I would hope this was the wakeup call he'd need.  I can be sanguine about this because (I'm repeating myself here) no one was hurt and insurance is paying for it. I probably wouldn't be so philosophical about it if one or both of those things were not the case. So don't mistake me for a shiny, happy, positive saint.

It sounds like a hard luck story, doesn't it? But I have a house for someone to hit with their car. That's something. I have a cushion. I have had interviews. I will eventually get something.  Even if the job is in the city and my commute is long, I'll be working (also, I won't be driving, since I can take the bus into town and take the subway to where ever I need to go).

I have had several interviews. I have had a lot of meetings with a contractor. I have been very, very busy. I am also still trying to plan my garden for next year. And I resolved to start updating this blog again on the regular, because I enjoy it, and I missed it.  I've tried and done things since I last updated this (including using my pressure cooker successfully. . .now I can pressure can and pressure cook!).

What have you all been up to?